【圖書簡介】 Longtime couples therapist Alter stops short of promising women who ask their husbands to read his guide that "he'll read it, and like it, and get it, and change, and then things'll get a lot better in your marriage," knowing from his 22 years as a counselor that his intended audience-boneheaded husbands-won't change if they don't want to, but those who do could do much worse than to take Alter's advice. Alter holds husbands accountable for many problems that plague marriages and relates to his male clients in a tough manner that sometimes angers them. The most useful guidance is a suggested "Move" at the end of each chapter, an overture husbands can make to improve at everything from listening to their wives, appreciating their wives' anger and understanding their own sexuality (read: "Please touch it."). Though some "Moves" are less helpful than others (he simply recommends husbands with addictions to alcohol, drugs, or pornography "break all your consuming relationships with substances and behaviors"), most are small, yet meaningful, and worth giving a shot before looking for a divorce attorney.
【本書目錄】 Foreword by Jane Alter Welcome, Men and Women His Introduction Her Introduction 1. Hey! You're in a Relationship! A Word to the Wives 2. What Does a Woman Want? 3. Excuse Me? Did I Hear You Say "Surrender"? 4. How to Know When You're Being a Man As Opposed to When You're Being an Asshole 5. Remember You're Great 6. Men at Work A Word to the Wives 7. Are You Being Served? 8. Grow Up! 9. The Five Big Lies That Keep You from Changing 10. Is Your Wife a Nag? A Word to the Wives 11. Talk to Her 12. How to Talk with Her 13. Listen to Her 14. Be Prepared to Process A Word to the Wives 15. Get in Touch with Your Feelings 16. Really Get in Touch with Your Feelings 17. Her Anger: Take the Hit 18. Your Anger: Cut the Shit 19. Gentleness 20. Discipline 21. Sober Up! A Word to the Wives 22. Cheer Up! 23. Lookin' Good! 24. Still Crazy After All These Years 25. Is There Good Sex After Marriage? 26. Her Sexuality 27. All Women Have Curves A Word to the Wives 28. A Man's Sexuality 29. The Gauntlet 30. Fidelity! 31. Aging Wife, Younger Woman ……